Some Things I've Learned Since Turning 25
When I turned 16, I was so excited! Driving, being able to get a job.. all that jazz. Then- 18. Whoah. I went out and got my belly button pierced because I "could." Why did I do that? Jeeze. 21 came and went in the blink of an eye and ever since then, birthday's have just felt "another year older." Nonetheless, blessed to be alive! Turning 25 almost 5 months ago has been totally different. I have changed.
Change is inevitable. Change can be good or bad as we all know. I was with some girlfriends of mine recently and we were chatting about life *as always* and got on the topic of how we have all changed. Maybe you feel this way too?
I honestly hate this word and hate that I've developed it. BUT- it's okay.
It started around my 25th birthday. I really wasn't "interested" in going out. I was never excessive about going out, but I did like to have a good time with my friends. The loud music, the drunks, the crowds- all of that did not sound appealing. Instead, my fiance and I went out to dinner and came home to watch a movie.. it was perfect. Odd, I thought.
I started feeling very stressed with wedding planning. I had let a lot of things get to me that I shouldn't have. I had LOVED wedding planning at the beginning.. then all of a sudden it felt like it was a weight on my chest. Girls should love wedding planning, right?
A traumatic incident happened at my place of work. Anxiety to the max.
Recently at my bachelorette trip, we had went out to a night club in Charleston. I found myself looking around to find the exits and thinking about how I would get myself and my friends out if something happened. Crazy? Prepared? I'm not sure.
I could keep being specific with scenarios over the past 5 months, but you get the picture. I struggle with feeling anxious, but also questioning myself about "is this normal?" I think it's both. It's normal to stress about work, especially if you care. It's normal to stress about your wedding while trying not to be a bridezilla. It's normal to stress about crowds/bad things happening because of the world we live in. Bad things happen everyday.
Even though this is "normal", it's also not okay to live in fear. I have reminded myself daily to "make the big things small, small things smaller" and to think about "controllable vs uncontrollable"
Isaiah 41:10 "Fear not; for I am with you; Be not dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."
Ya know the old tale of "your taste buds change every 7 years" or "your metabolism slows down when you get older" both true. (personal opinion)
I never thought I would see the day when I couldn't eat sweets everyday. My sweet tooth is large & in charge and has been my entire life. One day, I ate a cupcake and I have had trouble with sweets since. I ask myself "Why?" even say in my mind that "it's fine, it's so yummy I'm eating anyway" then hate myself later. Bummer, right?
I very rarely get sick. I just got over the flu.... at the age of 25.... in July. WHAT? I never have struggled with skin issues (thankful) but age has changed that.
Jobs can be demanding. I've worked plenty of overnights, doubles, etc. in my time and now I feel like every 4 hours it's time for a break. LOL
Take care of your body. Make time for yourself. I have learned that this has to be a priority.
I used to be able to say I had a lot of friends. Now, my circle is pretty small. I have felt relationships drift away these past few months and had to ask myself some questions.
How does this person make me feel? When we talk, what do we talk about? How am I benefiting from this relationship? If the answers aren't positive- cut them out. If you were to tell me that certain people wouldn't be at my wedding 3 years ago, I would think you were crazy. Things happen & people drift apart- it's normal.
Life is way too short to be negative. Attitudes are so contagious; why not surround yourself with positive and supportive people who brighten your day?
I also questioned myself- am I a good friend? Maybe it's me? Relationships are a two-way street.
I learned to invest in the relationships that matter and don't stress about the ones who don't.
Learning more about yourself can be scary, but a good thing. I've learned that I like a lot of foods that I didn't think I liked (asparagus, broccoli, etc.), I am prepared (mentally & physically) if something bad happens where I am, and I have all of the people in my life I need- all thanks to the Good Lord.